culturetrash:

“You can learn a lot about a woman by getting smashed with her.”
― Tom Waits

(via wileycoyoteee)

I’m turning 21 in a couple of weeks and I was reflecting on what I have learned so far. I know that I have a lot more to learn, but I also know that I have learned A LOT. So this is some of it…

you aren’t cool if you try to be cool

you can’t force yourself to like something

do what you love, and don’t be ashamed to love it

chances are, what you think is cool, isn’t actually cool

self worth is important, but amazing friends are a close second

relationships… love AND friendship, and two sided and in order to recieve, you must give

it’s okay if you don’t like something that other people like (and vice versa)

doing everything out of your own self interest will get you nowhere 

you will never be 100% satisfied with yourself, but it is amazing once you accept and learn to love your imperfections, and when you realize what is great about yourself

even if you aren’t blessed with a perfect family or a perfect group of friends, you can still make the best of it

take what you want, and leave the rest (in regards of everything… religion, love, friendship, philosophy, learning, ect)

revolving your life around food and eating and exercise  makes for a miserable existence

work out and eat healthy to feel good about yourself, not for the sole intention of becoming “skinny” and “attractive”

respect other peoples views and opinions, even if you disagree and KNOW they are wrong

do not judge someone if they go about something in a different way than you do

grades don’t matter, if you can pass and learn something, you’ll be okay

 silently judging someone is just as bad, and even if they seem strong, it can still be degrading to them

a grade in class, a number on a scale, the number of friends someone has, and the amount of money in someone’s bank account does not define their self worth

do what you want, when you want, for how long you want.. if it’s wrong, it’s wrong and if it’s right, then it’s right

do one thing every day that scares you

chances are, the things that scare you, will barely mean anything in your future

what doesn’t kill you, probably, actually, does  make you stronger

music is amazing

read. everything. it is a blessing to know how to read and to have the privilege of reading. 

actions speak louder than words

first loves suck, but they need to happen and you learn so much and you WILL survive

cheating… there is no excuse

trust means everything, in regards to all relationships

respect your parents

if you have an addictive personality, do yourself a favor, and stay away from things you could get addicted to

control issues are the worst type of issues

you’re on your own journey, don’t let someone else’s choices affect your life in a way where it inflicts an extreme amount of pain

drinking is fun and even some drugs can be fun, but don’t become an addict, its weak and pathetic and destroys everyone around you

wear a condom, and make him wear a condom, pregnancy scares/ std scares are literally the worst 

travel and adventure, you are ignorant until you experience other places and other ways to live ones life

if everyone likes something, and you like it too, it’s okay, you are still cool

keep your future in mind at all times, living every day like it’s your last could get you in trouble, and chances are, it won’t be your last. BUT don’t be afraid to be spontaneous, just make good decisions. 

if someone doesn’t appreciate you, then stop caring

i don’t care what anyone says, someone’s astrological sign can seriously tell you a lot about them

don’t settle for being an option

there is someone for everyone

it’s okay if you aren’t your own version or another’s version of perfection 

don’t rush through life

savor everything… moments, experiences, meals

respect animals

how you treat a waitress/server shows who you truly are

don’t be afraid to cry

flirting is fun

don’t change yourself for someone

first impressions aren’t always true

follow your intuition 

not everyone is a good person and has your best interest in mind

think before you speak, seriously, you can’t take words back

don’t forgive everyone, you can let things go, but don’t be that person that forgives everyone even if they do really shitty things to you

fake friendships, not worth it, and they’re obnoxious

don’t drag a friendship or a relationship along, things change & people change

don’t hook up with a friends ex, it’s gross and shitty and you’re not a real friend

jealousy is a serious waste of time

keep it real

There are so many other things, and I am sorry for annoying any of you with this lengthy list, but I need this on here so I never forget it, because I need reminding of all of these things too.